I have had a lot of friends have babies in the last year and one thing I have learned is that everyone is different and that's ok. What I don't like is that when I tell ppl that I won't be having a bassinet in our room (it's small) they say "good luck with that." Ya know, it's my baby and how hard is it to walk in the room next door, grab my baby and feed it? Not hard. My house is small and my bedroom is small and that baby is sleeping in it's room day one, I hope.
I'm going to admit -- I'm not one of those "natural mothers." I want an epidural. I thought the movie "The Business of Being Born" was pure propaganda. I want a doctor, not a midwife and I want to have my baby in a hospital. My birth plan is short and I don't need a doula. I am scared to breast feed but heck, I'm going to do it anyway. I dare you to judge me. I dare you! Let me add that I won't judge you for you opinions either because everyone is different. You do what you have to do. I won't judge you for going natural or having a midwife either. That's your decision.
With that being said, I'm laying down the ground rules when Lil Ben is here -- we're doing it our way -- not yours.